A Tribute to Henny

(This poem is dedicated to Jan)

May your grief be more like the snow that falls at night –
When the wind is calm and the candle light is bright.

May the weight of your tears not pull at your heart –
But cleans of your pain so anew you may start

To laugh, to love, to live, to sing
To find your meaning as the new day will bring –

A calm you will find as you reconcile your past –
So the loss that you feel may soon disappear fast.

The joy that you shared with your family so near –
The love of your children whom she held oh so dear.

A good bowl of soup and a Dubonnet brought great cheer –
Perhaps a ritual that you may enjoy through the year?

A mother who lived with her head held so high
Who knew to not let her life just pass by.

The land and the ocean she held close and would guard –
She knew they were special and held high in regard.

A chair she would cane, and the clothes she would sew –
The plastic re-used and her own veggies she’d grow.

By her family she stood, by her community too –
As her children grew older, her wishes were few.

A life that was simple and honest and real –
To gather together her friends for a meal.

Should we all be content to live life such as this –
May our eyes be wide open – not a moment to miss.

To pioneer and go boldly – to live true to one’s heart –
To dance in the rain and to eat that last butter tart!

As you gather together this Christmas, there will be –
One less person to gather round the tree.

She will still be among you – her spirit you will feel
As you share seafood chowder and drinks with your meal.

You will grow to be closer, let your grief wrap you warm –
And keep you protected and safe from the storm

That may rise within you – it may come in waves –
Let your tears flow in sorrow – of these do not be depraved.

For soon the fog lifts and a new day will dawn –
Although she’s not with you, you will see she’s not gone.

A new presence awakens with each passing tide –
You will soon come to know her again by your side.

She will come in the wind and the snow and the rain –
She will soothe your troubled mind and help ease your great pain.

Indeed may your grief be like snow in the night –
A gentle blanket that wraps you and holds your memories tight.

About inmycorner

This blog began as an opportunity to tell my Dad's stories. I sat with him and the computer and together we told stories. It was a wonderful way to get to know Dad. He was 9. He and Mom had a wonderful life together and since she passed away a year and a half before him - Dad was ready to join her. I no longer tell his stories but have found stories of my own. The impetus to resume this blog was the discovery that I had stage 4 ovarian cancer. Since blogging had been so therapeutic for my dad and I to get through our grief, I felt maybe this would be a good outlet to process my situation. I also hoped it may serve as an outreach to anyone else who is facing this very ominous journey. So far, so good.
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14 Responses to A Tribute to Henny

  1. Kathy Mcpherson says:

    This is lovely ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  2. Good to see you back writing again! Hope you’re staying safe?

  3. Judy says:

    Stacey, this is so gorgeous. Seriously, you should enter it into a poetry contest. It is so eloquent and compassionate, with words that create inspiring visuals.
    Your friend is very blessed that you’ve dedicated this to her. So sorry for her loss.

    • inmycorner says:

      Judy – honestly – God bless you. Your comments bring me from dark places into light. Thank you. You have no idea what a difference you have made – to lift my spirits. Thank God for you.

      • Judy says:

        Oh, Stacy, what a beautiful message you have written to me. I had no idea you have been in a dark place. We are living through difficult times and I’m sorry. Please know you can write to me anytime. I am here for you.

      • inmycorner says:

        We are living through difficult times indeed. You are , as always, so very sweet. Blessed to know you.

  4. pepe says:

    Hi Stacey ! It feels so nice to see your warm writing again. The poem is touching and comforting at the same time, and hope it could uplift your family members. Hope you are doing well and safe.
    One day, I was wondering about you too as I did not see your writing for long, hope you remember me.
    Sending you lots of strength and love !!

    • inmycorner says:

      Oh wow! It is so good to see you again, too! I am well and continue to be well. Six years since my “one year to live” diagnosis. Medicine can be a wonderful thing! Lynparza (Astra Zeneca) has been my saving grace. Your words are so kind – supportive – thank you! Of course I remember you – you got me through some very dark days. And I am happy to send strength and love back to YOU!

  5. pepe says:

    And may you continue to be healthy and happy. Your journey has been long, but you made through it. I am glad to have met you, an inspiring fighter. Stay the same too. I have been well too, finish my PhD, but now working in another research project, still in the same medicine line for neglected diseases. And stories like yours want me to work harder. Also, I have not been writing for years as life happens, was thinking to do it again and the day I opened wordpress, I saw your notification in my mail and I was so excited to see it, after many years. You encourage me again. So thank you so much !!

    • inmycorner says:

      I am so lucky to have had you in my corner for this entire (long) journey. You have made a difference for me. I am so grateful. Congratulations on finishing your PhD! Bravo. That is an incredible feat. So glad you are continuing your research – I continue to hold great hope for a cure! Isn’t that just serendipitous that we both plan to begin writing again – at the same time? You flatter – and I am pleased that our relationship is so symbiotic (using a science term here for the scientist) Looking forward to growing our friendship and for you to work hard (but enjoy life too)! Thank YOU so much!

      • pepe says:

        I am so touched reading and smiling too. Yes, kind of coincidence ! And it feels like to called as scientist, hope I can become pretty soon 🙂 Let’s write more and keep it more coming over here !! Stay safe Stacey and see you around. Sending you lots of warmth for the cold weather there and Thank you too !

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