Overcoming Stage-Fright

“I need a name for my book, Kevin.  I’m stuck on the title.  I want it to be positive, yet, to the point.”

Kevin and I began brainstorming a host of different ‘puns’ about cancer – cuz we are pun masters – to try to figure out an appropriate title.  We got stuck on a few ideas, mainly that the word cancer begins with “can”.  And that’s pretty positive.  But that didn’t seem to cut it.

“I can’t help but think about the word, ‘answer'”, Kevin said.  “You know, Canswer – instead of cancer?”

That was good.  That was clever.  That didn’t make the final cut.

“Something to do with the word ‘stage'”, he suggested.  “You know, like you thought Stage IV was a death sentence?  We had no idea what the concept meant when we first heard it – but it scared the heck out of us.”

“Stage-Fright?” I thought.  That was a good play on words… double entendu as it were.

But that was too negative.  And I don’t want a book that is suggesting anything more depressing about cancer than it already is.

And then – it dawned on me:  Overcoming Stage-Fright.  That name would suggest there is a way to overcome the fear of cancer.  And that’s 90% of the battle – emotional.  At least, that the part of the battle family and friends can help win.

“Overcoming Stage-Fright,” I suggested to Kevin.

“Yes.  I like that.  A guide for friends and family.  You can give tips to people who are supporting someone through cancer – to help them know how they may be helpful and encouraging.  So many people don’t know what to say – or what to do.  And often, they say things that are hurtful, when they are only trying to be helpful. You’ve certainly gone through enough to know what was helpful to you.”

And that was that.  I liked it.

I introduce to you now, my friends and family – the title of my up and coming book.  I have the layout.  I have the purpose.  I have a mission.  And so, I begin a new journey which will challenge me to review my first year of life as a person living with cancer.  It feels good to have a mission.  It feels good to think I will perhaps be able to provide helpful tips to those who are support networks for people living with cancer.  And I mean it when I say living with cancer – as I am a firm believer that someday soon, cancer will be a chronic illness – not a death sentence.

Fingers crossed.

First chore:  download September’s stories.  Egad.  Wish me luck.

About inmycorner

This blog began as an opportunity to tell my Dad's stories. I sat with him and the computer and together we told stories. It was a wonderful way to get to know Dad. He was 9. He and Mom had a wonderful life together and since she passed away a year and a half before him - Dad was ready to join her. I no longer tell his stories but have found stories of my own. The impetus to resume this blog was the discovery that I had stage 4 ovarian cancer. Since blogging had been so therapeutic for my dad and I to get through our grief, I felt maybe this would be a good outlet to process my situation. I also hoped it may serve as an outreach to anyone else who is facing this very ominous journey. So far, so good.
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32 Responses to Overcoming Stage-Fright

  1. Wilma says:

    Stacey..I need your book NOW!! Like a month ago…my bestie of 32 yrs is sitting in her second session of chemo as I write this.

  2. Kristen Hill says:

    You are a teacher in all aspects of life.

  3. Dawna speers says:

    Fabulous idea Stacey —helpful hints for those that are by standers to cancer and yet care for the people that are suffering, frightened and feeling alone.

    • inmycorner says:

      Indeed. I have always said that I thought it was more difficult to support someone through cancer than to be the one with cancer. So tough to know what to do.

  4. Gwen says:

    Love the title. On to the next step. So exciting!!

  5. Absopositfabufantastically brilliant Stacey!

    • inmycorner says:

      Ha ha -I”m counting on you for guidance my dear friend!

      • Oh Stacey….whatever I can do to help. But I know you’ve got this!

      • inmycorner says:

        I need some of your energy! Holy cow you are prolific – how often do you write? And it is all GOOD STUFF!!! How do you do it?

      • Well, I write something, somewhere, every day. I have made it a goal to pay attention to life so that every day things are important and I remember their worth. 🙂 I do know that no matter how exhausted I am, I always feel better with creating something. And thank you for saying it’s good stuff. I struggle sometimes thinking don’t hit that publish button. But, every thing I write….it’s a memory or a contemplation. So it doesn’t have to be perfect does it? 🙂

      • inmycorner says:

        Right (or write) you are. You remind me of “Canada’s Storyteller”, Stuart McLean. He was the host of the CBC’s radio show, “Vinyl Cafe”. He observed everyday life – found a story in every observation. He collected stories from Canadians and posted them on a website about “Canada”. He passed away a couple months ago – cancer – but left a great hole in our hearts. You two must have been unwitting kindred spirits. Have a peek at: https://www.vinylcafe.com/story-exchange/

      • Thank you Stacey. I will. It is with humility and gratitude that I want to look at this world. I want to be awed by it. I want to find the things to love and admire. Especially in today’s world. There is much to appreciate. Thank you for the kind words (and the kindred spirit to check out).

      • inmycorner says:

        Your humility and gratitude is transparent. As is your awe, love, and admiration. Bravo for having the courage to stay positive and awed.

      • ❤ You touched my very soul Stacey. Thank you.

  6. Heidi says:

    I have no doubt the book will be a tear-jerking knock your socks off kinda read!! I can’t wait to read and squeal with delight to read the ‘I’m a survivor ‘ chapter. Like there was ever a doubt …Love you girl!!!

  7. Helen Marie says:

    Stacey this conversation is so helpful. I feel so worried that I may say something wrong or inadvertently hurtful, that I often say nothing to the people I really care about. You are an amazing person and i feel blessed that our paths crossed.

    • inmycorner says:

      Oh, my goodness. There is really nothing that can be wrong when you speak about your own feelings from your own heart. I am so glad this conversation may help you to feel more confident about being a “true friend” to your friend – that includes feeling vulnerable with your emotions. You, my dear, are a good friend who obviously cares deeply. Be a loving listening.

  8. Christine says:

    Oh, that’s a good one! You’ll probably want a bi-line to make it clearly about cancer, but the title’s perfect. All the best with that good work.

  9. Lori Jankowski says:

    You have soooo many friends and family members in your corner, Stacey! I am very excited to have you as an authoress friend! I feel like this new challenge and mission of yours, will be a best-seller, simply because of the possibilities for those of us who will read it … and who will be able to help and support our loved ones through cancer as well! Thank God for the computer … otherwise, you would end up with writer’s cramp, I’m sure! 🙂 Looking forward to your finished guide, Stacey!

    • inmycorner says:

      Well, Lori, my penmanship sucks to begin with so – yeah – hail the computer! You are always so sweet and I do hope that I can be of service to others. That helps to keep me going! I’ll be sure you get a copy, Lori!

  10. Laura says:

    Stacey, this is perfect for you. Love the title and the idea of your book. What a great opportunity to be able to share what helped and encouraged you get through a cancer diagnosis. Too many don’t know what to say or what to do. Wishing you all the best as you start on your new mission.

    • inmycorner says:

      Laura – I appreciate the support more than you can know. I have been stumped at the very first story!!!! (Egad) It’s difficult to go back – but I am stubborn and determined. I hope the book will be of service to others – again, I appreciate the encouragement.

  11. Judy says:

    Aw, we are soul sisters with puns! I love your title and I am very excited for your new-found passion and motivation. No doubt, you will put together something amazing. Just enjoy your journey doing it. That’s what I tell myself when I get submerged in writing my book.
    I will be a “LePage” turner!!!

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  13. Laurie McCarthy says:

    Honestly Stacey, you not only inspire me, I’m in awe of the way you have taken this situation and turned it around.
    We have all learned so much, not just about you but about ourselves! You go deep and challenge us to do the same.
    Set a copy or 5 aside for me.😘

    • inmycorner says:

      Laurie – thank you. I’m not sure that I deserve that awe – but old enough and desperate enough to take it! And to say thank you. I look at you – and I think the same. You inspire me. I love how you live your life. I can’t keep up with you! I’m so happy to have you in my corner – funny how that happened. IN fact, so funny, I think it must be serendipity – fate- destiny. You got the copies girl (if I can get past the first story!)

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