My Debt

I have borrowed a lot in my life and I am in a great deal of debt.

My husband was vigilant throughout the time I was receiving chemo-therapy.  There was never a time when he was too busy to attend a doctor’s appointment with me.  There was never a time he was too tired to travel to Toronto to see me after surgery.  There was never a time he was too preoccupied to sit with me for six hours while I received my chemo.  He gave of himself and he gave of his time;  To him I owe a debt of gratitude.

My children have allowed me to see life once again through their eyes.  Ben, Katya, and David have always included me in their lives.  They invited me to participate in their sports activities, their singing or acting performances, and have included me with their friends.  I have never felt like an “excluded” parent or that they are embarrassed of me; to them I owe a debt of gratitude.

My friends have supported me when I needed encouragement.  My friends have prepared meals, baked in my oven to make the house smell good, visited when I was house-bound, provided house-cleaning services when I could not clean, and written long letters of friendship that walked me down memory lane.  They have sent messages on the phone, read my blog posts and responded, sketched me doodles, and mailed me socks.  They have picked up my children, participated in long bike rides and walks, defended me against those who may have been less kind, while others have simply listened.  You know who you are.  To them, to you, I owe a debt of gratitude.

God has granted me time.  Through the hands of the physicians and nurses who are so gifted in their medical fields, I have been given more time.  By all accounts, I shouldn’t be here today;  I was very ill.  Yet, here I am.  I am living on borrowed time.  I try to remember this every morning.  I try to remember that “today” – “right now” – is a gift.  It is the icing on the cake.  I feel a sense that I need to make something of this day – to do something for others – to give back – to somehow repay my debt.

These gifts are not monetary.  The best gifts in life – the things I appreciate the most – are not concrete.  I do enjoy good food, mind you, as well as a warm bed and a new refrigerator – but by and large, it is the ephemeral moments that are the best.  I have a purpose in this life in which I am now so heavily invested.

About inmycorner

This blog began as an opportunity to tell my Dad's stories. I sat with him and the computer and together we told stories. It was a wonderful way to get to know Dad. He was 9. He and Mom had a wonderful life together and since she passed away a year and a half before him - Dad was ready to join her. I no longer tell his stories but have found stories of my own. The impetus to resume this blog was the discovery that I had stage 4 ovarian cancer. Since blogging had been so therapeutic for my dad and I to get through our grief, I felt maybe this would be a good outlet to process my situation. I also hoped it may serve as an outreach to anyone else who is facing this very ominous journey. So far, so good.
This entry was posted in cancer, faith, inpiration, life, personal journal and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

4 Responses to My Debt

  1. pixieannie says:

    Stacey…. I have much to say but can’t find the right words in order to give you the credit and praise that you so rightly deserve for this openly honest and very humbling post. Your words will stir emotions in many and perhaps help to remind some of those that the most important things in our lives are, as you say, not of monetary value but of people’s time, love and affection.

    It is an honour to know you and to have shared just a glimpse into your life.

    With love
    Annie x

    • inmycorner says:

      Oh, my… Annie… just know that you are one of “those” I cherish and am indebted to. I haven’t known you long – but you came at a time in my life when I needed another wind – beyond my first and second.

      • pixieannie says:

        I have tissues. They’re happy tissues. There’s not a day goes by when I don’t think of you. Even this morning on my run when the going got tough, I thought to myself, ‘Stacey will be out walking before first light, there’s no excuse, stop the inner whine.’

        Just know that you have made a difference.

  2. What a powerfully beautiful post Stacey. 🙂 Thank you for sharing your debt. Not many debts are so impressive and glad to be had. ❤

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s