“Cancer … a Warrior Creator”

“I hate cancer.” began the article written by a friend of mine in the wee hours of the morning.

“Like most of the population,” she continued,  “I do not know of a single person who will say that cancer is a wonderful disease.  However horrendous the disease is, though, I have learned many things about it.  Probably one of the best facts I have picked up is that it has a talent for creating warriors.

You never know how you are going to act or react when you are told that you or someone you know has cancer.  We have all played the ‘if I’ game; this is a game where we look at certain situations and say, “If I was told x, I’d do y.”  This could be about any number of topics, ranging from what your hero does in a movie to how you would deal with tragic news.  Cancer is no exception, and while we would all like to think we would hold our heads up proudly and kick the disease into submission, the simple fact is it is heavy news.  It does not matter whether you receive the news that you have cancer or that a dear friend does; the whole notion of how you would deal with the news in the ‘if I’ game flies out the window in the face of stone cold reality.

I watched my mother tackle the disease head on.  I remember March 21, 1998 very well; that was the day she had received the results of her biopsy and it was not happy news.  I am certain Mom had her moments where she looked at her life and wondered how many days she had left, just as I am deadly sure that there were a number of tears shed when no one was looking.  It was during her fight with the disease, though, I watched her turn into a real warrior.  Whether it was when she met me in her living room – the same living room where I had watched her nearly pull her hair out in frustration at something my sister or I did during our teenage years – with her new, smoothly shaven head, or when she looked up at me from her hospital bed, still stoned on morphine after her mastectomy as she told me it was all right to be afraid, she had more guts in facing the disease than I ever thought possible”

My friend and I had had multiple conversations about her mother over the years.  It was clear that Chris, as was I, still grieving the loss of her mother.  We cried together and then laughed together in that back office at work.  I knew no details about her mom – only that she loved her mom and admired her.  It had not been until recently when stories with more detail began to emerge and I was so pleased to finally piece together a picture of her mother through Chris’ eyes.  What I saw was wonderful.  I think I would have really appreciated this woman.  I think I would have admired her.  I think Chris’ mom would have admired Chris and what she had become – and would have been proud of her daughter.

Chris’ article went on…. “I have been spending a lot of time thinking about those warrior moments she showed me.  I am seeing them a lot from a friend who is blogging her experience with women’s cancers.  She is learning to embrace a warrior’s spirit, too, just from her simple bravery in talking so openly about her experience.  Whether it is about issues of vanity when it comes to her hair loss and decision to shave her head right down to the shortest length possible or her first chemotherapy experience, she has lifted her head and looked the disease square in the face as she has effectively stuck her tongue out at it.  Her warrior’s spirit is growing larger and she has, along with my mother, shown me how to look at crisis in my own life with the same fire.”  That’s me!!!!!  I can’t believe someone thinks I am courageous.  And it shocks me that my experience can help someone else.  It gave me a sense of great relief to read that my posts have been good.  I was relieved that I need not feel vulnerable to attack – that I was too personal, or too open.

Chris concluded, “Cancer sucks, for sure, but it is up to each of us to decide how we deal with it when faced with the disease.  The ostrich approach – burying our head in the sand – is never an option, as that only allows the disease to have far more control over our lives than we want or deserve.  October is Women’s Cancers Month, according to the Canadian Cancer Society, and it’s critical that everyone whose lives have been touched by cancer should look at their experience with the disease with the same warrior’s spirit.”

Read more at http://guardianlv.com/2014/10/cancer-a-warrior-creator-in-spite-of-itself/#3paZ1R4Q1BpxXpDL.99

Opinion by Christina St-Jean

Source:  Canadian Cancer Society

How wonderful.  She is such a talented writer.  She has written me stories that are so evocative emotionally that it brings tears to your eyes.

A warrior.  I love the image – I have the hair cut now (grin)!  What a neat way to look at cancer.  It empowers me to think that I can take this disease and spin it into something that builds character.

I hate cancer too.  Chris’ spin on cancer, however, allows me to take a different perspective on it – and that can only be a good thing.

Thanks, Chris!

About inmycorner

This blog began as an opportunity to tell my Dad's stories. I sat with him and the computer and together we told stories. It was a wonderful way to get to know Dad. He was 9. He and Mom had a wonderful life together and since she passed away a year and a half before him - Dad was ready to join her. I no longer tell his stories but have found stories of my own. The impetus to resume this blog was the discovery that I had stage 4 ovarian cancer. Since blogging had been so therapeutic for my dad and I to get through our grief, I felt maybe this would be a good outlet to process my situation. I also hoped it may serve as an outreach to anyone else who is facing this very ominous journey. So far, so good.
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3 Responses to “Cancer … a Warrior Creator”

  1. Warrior. Warrior Stacey. I think you should create your own Warrior Name. And be the Warrior you want to be. Again, thank you for sharing this journey. I support our Warriors.

  2. Gallivanta says:

    What an excellent idea to have a Warrior Name. 🙂 I don’t have any idea how I would react to having cancer but I am sure your story, and others like it, would inspire me to heal. What a lovely article from Chris. 🙂

  3. hopebringsstrength says:

    Knowing that you are not alone. Knowing that you have hundreds who have fought before you and won. Knowing that you have countless numbers of family and friends who are there beside and behind you, supporting you, believing in you, and giving you strength of spirit and mind. You are ready to fight this battle and use everything you need to help you win! Reach out and reach in my friend. Much Love

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